MOVING WITH CHILDREN
Trying
to
break the news to your children about moving the family? Many of us too
are mothers and fathers and
would like to help you consider the feelings of those in your family on
which
the move makes a HUGE impact.
There is a lot to do when planning a
move, but keeping your children involved
is key. Here is checklist for parents to follow, so that the children
don't get
lost in the shuffle.
TELLING
THE CHILDREN
- Generate
some conversation about your new home and area by asking your children
what they
already know. Parents can provide maps, books, information from the
Internet
and MORE! This is a fun way to get everyone excited about the change.
- Provide
your children with an address book so that they can keep track of
family
members and friends that they may want to keep in contact with.
- Throw a
"Going Away" party and invite all of your children's friends and
classmates.
- Spend time
visiting some of your children's favourite places to go like the
library, park,
swimming pool, etc.
- Create a
blueprint of each child's new room and allow them to design the layout
of their
furniture and personal belongings. Laying out the new room in a similar
fashion
will help them adapt quicker.
PACKING
Preparing
to move is an excellent time to sort through things that could be
donated to
charity or turned into cash. You may want to have your children (as
well as
parents) separate their things in four specific categories:
- Things you
want to take with you to your new home
- Things you
want to toss in the garbage
- Things you
would like to donate to charity
- Things for
a garage sale
These
are
some charities that I have worked with and know to be in need as well
as good
stewards of everything they receive.
GENERAL
- Create a
checklist so that your child(ren) can feel a sense of accomplishment
when they
have completed a certain task.
- Have your
child(ren) design a label or sticker that can be used to differentiate
their
items from the rest of the families. This will give them a sense of
importance.
- The first
night in a house is always a little scary for everyone. It is important
to make
sure that there are some familiar things each child has in their
possession: a
blanket, favourite pyjamas or special toy - just to name a few.
- Make sure
there are plenty of activities, such as travel games, books, CDs and
DVDs for
the trip.
SETTLING
IN
- It is
important to go over your new address with your child(ren). Try to have
them
memorize it as soon as possible.
- Your
child's room is their personal haven and should be designed to their
specifications
with their furniture and belongings. This is where the blueprint of
their new
room (that they designed) comes in handy!
- It is
important to get outside and tour the neighbourhood or take a drive and
visit
some new places around the community.
- Have your
children start a list about what they like about their:
- Home
- School
- Neighbourhood
- Community
- Church
- Friends
- Teachers
- Help them
stay connected with old friends, through Facebook, writing letters,
sending
postcards or even sending photos of the new home etc. Let them E-mail
old
friends and neighbours to let them know about your new home and
community.
- Step up on
quality family time for a while – even if it means a bit of sacrifice.
They
will appreciate it and it will assist in their sense of security.
- Take them
if possible, on a visit to your new workplace. Let them feel part of
the bigger
picture.
- Kick start
a new hobby for them or get them really involved in an old one.
Anything to
keep their minds active with pleasant thoughts while they adjust.
- If
you have plans to re-decorate or renovate the new home, get them
involved. Ask
their opinion.
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